Self-worth, or lack thereof, has come up a lot in my coaching conversations these days. Women, and men, from all walks of life are struggling to sustain feelings of personal high-esteem and belonging. In a time where we're receiving more than 5000 messages every day [whether it be over social media, TV or advertising], no wonder we're so insecure. In this blog post I hope to empower you with practical, easy-to-apply coaching exercises for improved self-worth and self-esteem!
Build your self-worth with these top tips:
Focus on progress, not perfection. Every Friday, review each small success from your week and start to notice how the success is found in the journey, not the destination!
Don’t start your day with social media. Set up simple boundaries where you keep your cellphone on airplane mode until you've completed your morning routine or left the house. I believe there's nothing more toxic than scrolling through social media first thing in the morning, especially when it comes to comparing yourself to others on the other side of the screen.
Create a routine of gratitude around yourself. Every night before bed, stand in front of the mirror [just try it!] and tell yourself - out-loud -what you love about yourself. Are you grateful for your work ethic, your sense of humour, your hair? Try to practice this every evening as you wind-down!
Watch your self talk. Is your conversation with yourself about your worth pessimistic or optimistic? Don't dim your light! Let me walk you through it: take a moment to think of a sentence or a limiting belief you often repeat in your mind. Many people say things like, “I am not enough." Or “I am undeserving of love."
First, ask yourself: Is it true? Is it true that you are not enough? Is it true that you are undeserving of love? The answer is probably no!
Second, reframe it positively. So let’s say you keep telling yourself “I am not enough”, How could you state that positively? You could say: I am enough. Or you could say I am deserving of love.
Exercise your happy hormones! Get your endorphins dancing by going for a run or, walk or hike. Getting your body moving - in whichever way you like - makes you feel happier and more at ease with yourself! Don't have high expectations, start small.
Practice "You are what you consume". Make a point to be mindful of consuming that which is positive and uplifting instead of degrading and judgemental. I suggest you unfollow social media accounts that are not making you feel good. Stop watching violent TV shows. Eat healthy food to nourish your body. Be mindful of how you spend your money. Surround yourself with loving people.
Which brings me to my final top tip,
Surround yourself with 5 empowering people, because you are sum of those you spend your time with. Consciously consider who you want to learn from and make an effort to make space for that person.
When you fill your life with practical and empowering actions, it will begin to change for the better. Brené Brown says,
True belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect
selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be
greater than our level of self-acceptance.
Do you have some new tips or perspectives to share for building self-worth? Share with me in the comments below and make sure to share this post with anyone and everyone who might need it today!